We were all kids and we thought we were great until someone told us we weren't good enough and then we started to wonder about it. We be...
We were all kids and we thought we were great until someone told us we weren't good enough and then we started to wonder about it. We become insecure and full of thoughts of inferiority. We grow up and we are reacting to what happens to us without much questioning of why we feel that way.
Our inner child, that is, the child we were one day remains within all of us. This child may be healthy or injured, it depends on how we work out childhood. Therefore, it is very important to think about this subject and take care of our inner child so that we can have a healthy emotional development and adequate self-esteem.
We all have an Inner Child - Learn how to Heal It!
Many people suffered in childhood and this formed emotional wounds that were muffled and unresolved, and this keeps this inner child injured to this day. Knowing this, it is possible to enter into this subject to understand what happened to heal this past.
Our negative reactions today have a lot to do with what we
live and elaborate in childhood with our maturity of the time. A child does not
know how to deal with rejection without taking it personally and feeling
inadequate, so it will feel bad and close. An adult can think rationally about
the situation and will not lose his self-esteem just because he received a
criticism. On the other hand, people who have the injured inner child will deal
with rejection in a childish way, as they dealt with in childhood, and possibly
will not accept criticism in a rational way, take to the emotional side and
have an inadequate reaction, not being able to have a mature posture of those
who receive criticism and see the possibility of improving.
There are exercises that help you heal your inner child.
1) First we need to know how she is, do a meditation or simply sit in a calm environment where she will not be bothered. Close your eyes and take a deep breath a few times. Remember your childhood, try to remember your first memory, as much child as possible, then watch the passing of the years, leave your mind free to bring random memories. Remember your room, all the furniture, now think of you adult entering that room and meeting you child. What would this conversation be like? What's it feel like? You adult today can take care of you child, explain occurred and feelings. This exercise is therapeutic and has great results. The more time you spend in this meditation and the more times you repeat, the more you will see results in your current life.
2) Ask this child questions, what she likes, what she
doesn't like, and see if you live up to that child's wishes. Would you child be
proud of you adult?
3) Remember what you liked to play, how you spent time. In
your childhood you may have the answer of what you could work on that would do
well.
4) Don't be ashamed to play, jump or dance. Children are
free and we should be too, that's healthy, don't repress. I'm sure if anyone
sees you free, you'll admire your courage and feel like doing the same thing.
5) Talk more alone. Children talk to their stuffed animals
and dolls, they bring everything to life, try to vent with a toy. Also talk to
your inner child as if she were a person by your side, be caring and loving.
We can't erase what happened in our past or pretend it
didn't happen, but we can give new meaning to what happened by understanding
and looking at it from another point of view.
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